Just Keep Your Hands to Yourselves

We women are blamed for exciting desire. We are blamed for killing desire. In summary, anything that happens with desire – it’s on us. So many harassers. Falling like domnioes as their victims, backing each […]

My summer vacation – Foreign Extraction Edition, Part IV

Picking up where I left off (almost 2 weeks ago – sorry!), my stateside brother and I had just had a meal of fish and rice, followed by with some delicious pineapple pie, and were […]

My Summer Vacation – Foreign Extraction Edition, Part III

In last week’s installment, we had just wrapped up our brief adventure in Narita, Japan and were headed back to the airport to fly to Manila. After a leisurely and somewhat circuitous trip to see […]

My summer vacation – Foreign Extraction Edition, Part II

left off I left off as my stateside brother and I finalized our plan to travel to the Philippines to retrieve my Philippines-dwelling brother from near a war zone. I have flight benefits through my […]

My Summer Vacation – Foreign Extraction Edition, Part I

How did everyone’s summer go? Did you get out to the beach? Have some BBQs? Do some camping? Kayaking? Bike riding? How about that eclipse? That was something, huh? I did manage to do most […]

What We Really Mean by States’ Rights

I was talking to someone about the Civil War, and Lincoln and what the war meant to either side. To me, it seems clear that it was about one faction wanting to continue to exploit […]

Are You Scared Yet?

In what is by now old news, last weekend a few hundred heavily armed neo Nazis, white supremacists and members of the deceptively named “alt-right” marched in Charlottesville, Virginia. After weeks’ long period of relative […]

Your Standards Will Save You

Very many years ago, in the early days of the internet, I got semi-catfished. The guy was real (truly, some friends met him at a later point) but was not at all what he claimed […]

You Say Control Like it’s a Bad Thing

People talk about those who like to be in control, as if it’s a negative trait. “Oh, she doesn’t like going to the doctor, because she likes to be in control.” Etc. You know what? […]

Policing Our Two Americas

When I was a kid, growing up with an alcoholic father and a mother who enabled him (consciously or unconsciously I was never sure), sometimes we would find ourselves, the 6 of us, crammed into […]