Tag: advice
No Excuse Needed
If you participate in any sort of organized fitness, the concept of excuses comes up from time to time – if, for example, you decide to skip a workout. Or eat a doughnut. I used […]
Holy Intrusiveness Batman! Or, How to Defend your Borders
I had an experience recently that made me really glad of the work I have done to learn about personal boundaries and how to enforce them. Someone I encounter in my daily life decided that […]
Top 5 Signs that You’re Being Manipulated
Another thing about growing up crazy is that oftentimes people with mental illness or severe emotional problems are adept at manipulating other people in order to get their own needs met. This can happen because […]
Six Ways from Dysfunction
Think about what slice you use to measure your life. For a while I did Crossfit, and now I do Olympic weightlifting. I’m not really the typical body type or age (or personality) for these […]
Goals of the Achievable Sort
About a year ago I got a fitbit. For the uninitiated, it’s a device you either clip to your clothes or wear on your wrist to track activity. I got it because I suspected I […]
No One Can Take This from You
Do you ever feel badly about yourself because of traits that are perceived from the outside? Your looks? Your body? The prestige (or lack thereof) associated with your career? Yeah, me too. I think we […]
Slow is Smooth and Smooth is Fast
Back in the 90s Jeffrey Mayer wrote If You Haven’t Got the Time to Do It Right, When Will You Find the Time to Do It Over? The title was based on a quote attributed […]
Are You Productive, or Are You Just Busy?
I have been thinking about this lately, because as I have become less busy, I have become protective of my free time, not because I require vast tracts of empty space on my calendar for […]
If You Wrote Well Once, You Will Write Well Again
Much as I used to believe that I must keep an iron grip on any words I have written because I don’t want to lose word count, I also used to believe that I if […]
Do What You Do Well, and the Confidence Will Follow
After a couple of decades of “Best Participant” trophies and endless congratulations to kids for just getting out of bed and existing every day, the experts have finally started cautioning against too much positive reinforcement. […]
Don’t Stop the Train
I’m a closet advice column junkie. Carolyn Hax, Ask Amy, and Margo Howard – I read them all. I still read Cheryl Lavin’s Tales from the Front, which started in the Chicago Tribune right around […]
Jennifer Lesher 